There was no mistake, but a bad thing has happened. Despite the best efforts of the doctors, Bob’s wife is very sick. Due to a rare side effect of treatment, her liver is failing. Bob believes this could have been prevented. He is very mad.
“When we go to see the doctor, he stares at the computer,” says Bob. “He does not look at us. Most of the time, the doctor is not even listening to us. He just sits there typing at the keyboard, gaping at the screen. If he had been listening when my wife talked about the pain, then he would have stopped the drug. Then her liver would be fine. She would be OK. All you doctors have become nothing but computers.”
Now here it gets interesting. After I listened carefully to Bob and sat with him at his wife’s bedside, I decided to check “the computer.” There in the doctor’s records I saw a long discussion and analysis of the problem with her liver. Quite opposite of ignoring her, her doctor had listened, had changed therapy and was watching her liver carefully. Sadly, despite the change, her liver had gotten worse. The problem therefore, was not that the doctor was not listening. He definitely was. The problem was that the computer had stopped him from communicating.
It is strange to think that a system of information and data exchange, which allows you to communicate with anyone around the entire world, interferers with connecting to the person right in front of you. We see it constantly as cell phones, Ipads, computers and even that “old” obstructer the television, get between us. At the time we need to communicate most desperately, electronics can block that most human connection of all, the physician – patient relationship.