Some conversations are easier than others

We’re continuing a tradition at THCB started last year. Asking you to take a moment this weekend to discuss your desires for how to live the end of your life as meaningfully as possible–If you want to reproduce this post on your blog (or anywhere) you can download a ready-made html version here Matthew Holt

Last Thanksgiving weekend, many of us bloggers participated in the first documented “blog rally” to promote Engage With Grace – a movement aimed at having all of us understand and communicate our end-of-life wishes.
It was a great success, with over 100 bloggers in the healthcare space and beyond participating and spreading the word. Plus, it was timed to coincide with a weekend when most of us are with the very people with whom we should be having these tough conversations – our closest friends and family.
Our original mission – to get more and more people talking about their end of life wishes – hasn’t changed. But it’s been quite a year – so we thought this holiday, we’d try something different.

A bit of levity.

At the heart of Engage With Grace are five questions designed to get the conversation started. We’ve included them at the end of this post. They’re not easy questions, but they are important.
To help ease us into these tough questions, and in the spirit of the season, we thought we’d start with five parallel questions that ARE pretty easy to answer:


Silly? Maybe. But it underscores how having a template like this – just five questions in plain, simple language – can deflate some of the complexity, formality and even misnomers that have sometimes surrounded the end-of-life discussion.
So with that, we’ve included the five questions from Engage With Grace below. Think about them, document them, share them.

Over the past year there’s been a lot of discussion around end of life. And we’ve been fortunate to hear a lot of the more uplifting stories, as folks have used these five questions to initiate the conversation.

One man shared how surprised he was to learn that his wife’s preferences were not what he expected. Befitting this holiday, The One Slide now stands sentry on their fridge.

Wishing you and yours a holiday that’s fulfilling in all the right ways.

(To learn more please go to www.engagewithgrace.org. This post was written by Alexandra Drane and the Engage With Grace team. )

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  1. I am gsseuing that this is a big problem for most couples. Even us, married for 43 years and still dealing with the issue of surprise versus what I really want and he doesn’t have a clue unless I tell him and then it isn’t (a surprise, that is) problem. Hmmm. Of course, for me, I don’t care about the surprise part of it. I think (hope) my hubby has gotten over that, although, I am not sure. I do think he would like me loving my gift more than any surprise. A couple of his surprises have not worked out well. Remember the lottery ticket for Mother’s Day one year? Hmmmm. Or the surprise birthday party at our new duty station in England with 50 complete strangers who brought me gifts(ugghhhhh)! His heart is always in the right place and he has a really big heart, so that counts for alot! But, it is still always a question.

  2. Wow thanks a lot for that useful information . It is very true because sometime you just get stuck and dont know what to say. Some conversations are easier tahn the others . Sometimes it also depends on the person we are talking to .